Helping a Parent Get In and Out of Bed

Updated August 2026. Written by the Mobility Co team, Cheltenham.

If your parent struggles to get in or out of bed, the things that help most are the right bed height, so their feet reach the floor and their knees sit a touch below their hips, a firm edge to sit on, and something solid to hold. When it is a daily struggle, an adjustable bed raises them to a sitting position at the push of a button, and a hi-lo bed also raises and lowers the whole bed to a safe height for getting up and for carers. We fit these at our Cheltenham showroom and bring them to homes across bayside and south-east Melbourne.

Why getting in and out of bed gets hard

Getting out of bed is a surprisingly complex movement: rolling, pushing up to sitting, then standing, often first thing in the morning when the body is stiffest. Age, arthritis, weakness after illness or surgery, or simply a bed that is too low or too soft can turn it into a real effort, or a two-person job in the middle of the night. Families often notice it when a parent starts sleeping in a recliner to avoid the bed, or when helping them up becomes a strain on the carer’s back. Like getting out of a chair, it is very fixable once you know what to change.

What to try first, before spending anything

Some quick, low-cost wins:

  • Get the height right. When sitting on the edge, their feet should be flat on the floor with knees level or just below the hips. A bed that is too low is the most common culprit, and too high is just as unsafe.
  • Firm up the edge. A firm mattress edge is far easier to sit on and rise from than a soft one that gives way.
  • Give them something to hold. A bed rail or a floor-to-ceiling pole gives a stable handhold for rolling, sitting up and standing.
  • Sort the path and the light. A clear, well-lit route to the bathroom, and a lamp or motion light within reach, prevents the night-time stumble.

If those settle it and the nights are calm, great. If it is still hard, or you are being called to help, the bed itself is usually the answer.

When an adjustable or hi-lo bed is the answer

An adjustable bed raises the head section so your parent can go from lying down to sitting upright at the push of a button, which takes the hardest part out of getting up and makes reading, watching television and breathing easier too. A hi-lo bed goes a step further: the whole bed raises and lowers, so it can drop low to prevent injury from a roll-out and rise to a safe height for standing up or for a carer to help without bending. For anyone whose nights have become a worry, the right bed gives everyone back their sleep.

What to look for in the bed

The main decisions are the type and the fit. An adjustable bed suits most people who mainly need help sitting up and getting comfortable; a hi-lo bed suits those who need the whole bed to change height for safe transfers or for a carer. Then it is about the right size and the right mattress firmness for the person, whether one partner needs to adjust their side without disturbing the other, and whether a rail or pole should go alongside. Our full guide to the best adjustable beds in Melbourne covers all of it, but as ever, fit and the person’s actual mornings decide the choice, not the brochure.

Getting the fit right, in person or at home

Bed height and firmness are personal, so we fit the bed to the person. You are welcome to try the range at our Cheltenham showroom at 2/136 Keys Road, and because moving a parent to a showroom is not always practical, we bring beds and advice to homes across bayside and south-east Melbourne, from Sandringham and Beaumaris to Highett, Bentleigh and Moorabbin and the surrounding south-east suburbs. We deliver, set the bed up, show everyone how it works and remove the old one if you would like.

Can funding help with an adjustable or hi-lo bed?

Often, and hi-lo beds in particular are a recognised assistive technology, so they are usually more straightforward than comfort items. We are a registered provider and prepare compliant quotes, usually within 24 hours.

  • Support at Home, the program that replaced Home Care Packages in 2025, may fund an adjustable or hi-lo bed through its Assistive Technology and Home Modifications (AT-HM) scheme where an assessor agrees it is needed.
  • NDIS participants may fund one where it relates to their disability and is reasonable and necessary.
  • Many families buy privately, with the same fitting, delivery and aftercare either way.

An occupational therapist can assess and recommend, and we will prepare the quote in the format they and your provider need. Call 1300 225 203 with no obligation.

We can help

Worried about your parent getting in and out of bed safely? Come and try an adjustable or hi-lo bed at our Cheltenham showroom, or we will bring one to their home anywhere in bayside Melbourne.

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Visit our Cheltenham showroom

You are welcome weekdays 9am to 5pm, and Saturdays by appointment, at 2/136 Keys Road, Cheltenham, with parking on site. Or we will bring equipment and advice to your parent’s home anywhere in bayside and south-east Melbourne.

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Frequently asked questions

What kind of bed helps an elderly person get up?

An adjustable bed raises the head section so they can sit upright at the push of a button, which takes the effort out of getting up. A hi-lo bed also raises and lowers the whole bed to a safe standing height and can drop low to reduce injury from a roll-out. Both make getting in and out of bed far easier.

What is the difference between an adjustable bed and a hi-lo bed?

An adjustable bed changes the position of the mattress, raising the head and often the feet. A hi-lo bed does that too but also raises and lowers the entire bed height, which helps with safe transfers and lets a carer work without bending. Hi-lo beds suit higher needs; adjustable beds suit most people who mainly need help sitting up.

How high should a bed be for an elderly person?

As a rule of thumb, when they sit on the edge their feet should rest flat on the floor with knees level with, or just below, their hips. Too low makes standing hard and too high is unsafe. An adjustable or hi-lo bed lets you set the right height rather than guess.

How much does an adjustable or hi-lo bed cost in Melbourne?

Our beds range from $1,995 to $6,995 depending on the type, the size and whether a compatible mattress is included, from adjustable bases up to hi-lo beds at the higher end. We price each bed once it is fitted to the person, and funded quotes are usually ready within 24 hours. Our adjustable beds guide explains the range in detail.

Will Support at Home or NDIS pay for an adjustable bed?

Support at Home, which replaced Home Care Packages in 2025, may fund an adjustable or hi-lo bed through its AT-HM scheme where an assessor agrees it is needed, and NDIS may where it relates to a participant’s disability. Hi-lo beds are a recognised assistive technology, so they are often more straightforward than comfort items. We are a registered provider and prepare compliant quotes, usually within 24 hours.

Are bed rails safe?

Used correctly, a bed rail or floor-to-ceiling pole gives a helpful, stable handhold for rolling over, sitting up and standing. The right type depends on the person and the bed, so it is worth having it recommended and fitted properly rather than guessing. We can advise on the safest option for your parent’s setup.

Can my parent keep their own mattress?

Often not with an adjustable base, because the mattress needs to flex with the bed. We will tell you honestly whether an existing mattress will work or whether a compatible one is needed, and help choose the right firmness for comfort and for getting on and off easily.

The short version

Start with the right bed height, a firm edge and something solid to hold. If getting in or out of bed is still a struggle, an adjustable bed sits them up at the push of a button and a hi-lo bed changes the whole bed height for safe transfers. Try one at our Cheltenham showroom, or we will bring it to your parent’s home anywhere in bayside Melbourne. Call 1300 225 203.